[05년 언젠가] 그는 당신에게 반하지 않았다.

He's Just Not That Into You
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섹스앤더시티의 스토리 컨설턴트라는 남자가 쓴 책인데.

읽어보니 무슨 연애백서 같은 느낌이다.

오프라 윈프리쇼에 나와 주접떠는 모습이 너무 재밌어서 결국 주문.

새로 만난 남자나, 오랫동안 사귀어온 남자친구와의 관계에서

뭔가 진행이 더딘거 같다던가, 속은거 같다던가 할때 그 이유는

바로 그는 당신에게 반하지 않았기 때문.

책에 나온 한 부분을 소개합니다~
 

The "He's afraid to get hurt again" Excuse

Dear Greg,

 I had a boyfriend ten years ago, I bumped into him on the street recently, after not having seen him for many years, and we start 'dating' again, even through it is unclear if that's exactly what's going on. He won't kiss me or make a pass at me. But, Greg, we're going barhopping, we're staying out late, talking and dancing and laughing and flirting. He keeps telling me how great I look, how great it is to see me. One night he even told me he loved me and hoped I'd always be in his life. My friends all say he's just afraid to get hurt again and I should stick this one out. He's a great guy. Doesn't he seem really into me, but he's scared? Salsa dancing, Greg, till four in the morning. Salsa dancing. Please advice.

Nicole

자, 답변

Hey Salsa,

 I'm a dude. If I like you, I kiss you. And then I think about what you look like in and out of your underwear. I'm a guy. That's how it works. No ifs, no ands, and clearly no buts. Is he scared? Yes, he's scared of hurting your feelings. That's why he hasn't clarified the relationship. He may even be biding his time hoping he will develop deeper feelings for you. When this dude tells you he loves you and that he hopes you never lose touch again, he may as well be signing your yearbook. He loves you as a friend. If he were in love with you, he wouldn't be able to help himself from getting involved in a romantic relationship regardless of his fear or passt experiences. I say, move on! Go meet someone more worthy of your affections and hot salsa moves.